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Welcome to Single Mothers Online, official site of the National Organization of Single Mothers, Inc. Here you'll find answers to your most daunting single parent concerns. Browse through the highly acclaimed Single Mother magazine, formerly in print version for 17 years.

Founded by Andrea Engber, NOSM is dedicated to helping single moms by choice or chance face the daily challenges of life with wisdom, wit, dignity, confidence and courage since 1991.

Read Andrea Engber's nationally syndicated column, Single...with Children, which previously ran in over 60 newspapers. Whether you're a MOM (Mother Outside of Marriage) or one of the millions of DIVAS (Divorced and Separated), take comfort knowing that you are not alone.

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The Complete Single Mother

"The ultimate go-to guide for single mothers!" - Ann Douglas, author, The Mother of All Pregnancy Books

Complete Single Mother BookThe Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns by Andrea Engber and Leah Klungness, (3rd edition, (Adams). 480 pages plus illustrations.

Being a single mother isn’t easy—but with The Complete Single Mother, Third Edition, it just got easier.
Written by the founder and director of the National Organization of Single Mothers, this comprehensive guide explains what nearly thirteen million American single mothers need to know to overcome the challenges of daily life with dignity, wisdom, and courage.
Long the most popular source of encouragement and advice for single moms, this engaging, enlightening guide explores such important issues as:
-Finances -Dealing with the absent father -Custody -Dating and remarriage

With a new chapter devoted to children with special needs, as well as inspirational sidebars about famous single mothers, this updated classic is the supportive, one-stop handbook you’ll turn to again and again!

"The Complete Single Mother is the definitive guide to life for solo moms." -Ariel Gore, editor/publisher, Hip Mama

"This is the most helpful, empowering resource single moms have looked to for over a decade." -Sheila Ellison, author, The Courage to be a Single Mother and founder of SingleMomsConnect.com

"The absolute single mother 'bible'... I couldn't believe how much incredibly important information delivered with heart, hope and laughter is packed in. You must get this book!" -Patrice Karst, author, The Single Mother's Survival Guide

From earlier editions of The Complete Single Mother:

"This handbook for single mothers offers practical advice on meeting the challenges of parenting without partners. In part 1, Engber and Klungness look at the various ways women become single mothers--through divorce, widowhood, adoption, donor insemination, or pregnancy outside marriage--and the special demands of each situation. In part 2, the authors focus on how single moms can handle pregnancy and birth, maintaining a household and maintaining their self-esteem alone, and in part 3, they talk about the day-to-day difficulties of 'raising terrific kids.' They address in part 4 relations outside the family unit." - Booklist

"Provides a world of support for women who often feel alone."-American Baby magazine.

At Last, a Comprehensive and Practical Guide for the Single Parent!

"Filled with expert information and pragmatic advice, The Complete Single Mother explains what nearly eleven million single mothers need to know to overcome the challenges of daily life with dignity, wisdom, and courage. This book will answer all the questions you may have about single motherhood but were either too busy or too afraid to ask - questions concerning custody issues, managing your finances, dealing with an irresponsible ex, handling work pressures collecting child support, and more."- From the publisher

"With more than nine million American women raising children alone by choice or out of necessity, it is surprising that most books on pregnancy and parenting still assume that the two-parent family is the norm. Written by single mothers...offers useful, practical advice for women raising children alone. Includes information on medical care, financial management, legal matters, career planning, social life, support networks, and dealing with family members. Engber and Klungness, writing in the tone of self-help books, cover pregnancy and the baby's first year but place more emphasis on the mother's self-esteem and other psychosocial issues. They also include child-development and parenting information about older children as well as a bibliography and resource list. Comprehensive. Highly recommended for all parenting collections."- Library Journal

5 star rating from Barne's and Noble' readers:

"Great resource for Single Moms. I was given this book when I found out I was having a baby alone. It has great sections on everything a single mom needs to know. I have enjoyed the information and would recommend it to ALL Single Moms." -a Single Mom & Proud of it, April 25, 2000,

"The Single Mother's 'Bible'! As a single Mom of two boys, I keep this book on my nightstand and use it as a bible for situations that arise as a single Mom. It is a great reference book and I would recommend it to any single Mom who is searching for guidance. I truly appreciate the wealth of information it contains. A must have for you single Moms out there!"
-a single working Mom from NYC, September 14, 1999,

"Destined to become a parenting classic!" - Shoshana Alexander, author, In Praise of Single Parents

"Essential reading for single moms!" - Working Mother magazine

"Wow!" - American Baby


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0 #83 ricardo meisha 2012-05-09 04:45
Hi Megan.My name is Ricardo Meisha from Tanzania,E.Africa.You sound like a good person and who is really in distress.Ok,we dont know each other well but we will
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0 #82 Debs 2012-05-04 01:00
Quoting Miss. Megan Anne:
I'm a 21 year old single mom to a 16 month old son. His father is not involved anymore and he has never once paid child support. I'm to the point to were I feel as if I was never ment to be a mother, I love my son very much but I just can't handle it anymore. He just cries and cries and does it to get attention. I just don't have the time to sit down and hold him like I use to be able to. Is there anything that I can do to help my feelings toward motherhood and with his crying?

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Hey! I hope someone responded to you or you got some words of support! IT GETS BETTER! and then it gets worse, then better, etc. Don't doubt your mothering... women everywhere do this and you can do it! Think of women in war zones, third world countries... you have better resources at least. You can do it and you are doing it! Just focus on fitting in some time to hold your baby, maybe co-sleep? I hope you are feeling better!
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0 #81 berta 2012-04-27 18:02
Your points are well taken. No system of administrator is perfect. Sometimes you have to help the generation that is already raising kids albeit early and hope that single mom school loans, for instance, will help them become educated and contribute to society and hopefully raise their kids to become more educated.
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+1 #80 katie B 2012-04-26 13:59
I am 18 and 4 months pregnant my baby's father decided to back out after he found out I was pregnant. I'm a college student and work full time. I want nothing more than to raise a happy, healthy baby but I'm worried because I don't know how to handle the question of where the baby's dad is once it wants to know. My family is helping me immensely and I know my baby will be well taken care of by all of us but I'm still scared and completely alone.
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+1 #79 Miss. Megan Anne 2012-04-10 20:41
I'm a 21 year old single mom to a 16 month old son. His father is not involved anymore and he has never once paid child support. I'm to the point to were I feel as if I was never ment to be a mother, I love my son very much but I just can't handle it anymore. He just cries and cries and does it to get attention. I just don't have the time to sit down and hold him like I use to be able to. Is there anything that I can do to help my feelings toward motherhood and with his crying?
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0 #78 His Mommy 2012-04-03 23:23
im 21 years old and a mother or 1 wonderful 2 yr old boy, i was with his dad for 5 years and put up with alot of cheating alot of abuse although not physically his neglect towards our son and me killed me inside, i loved him and i have to admit still do but i cant put up with it anymore, financially he has always been their and thanks to that i have been able to finish college but for some reason he seems to think that giving money is the only thing his son needs time and time again ive given him one chance after another to be a better man and a better father but he has failed miserably as both, he hasnt seen me or our son in more than a month now because i refuse to continue with a never ending cycle of using me and coming in and out of our sons life for weeks at a time.. however i miss him so much and part of me wants to run back and tell him its ok to come back hoping that things will change, when i know they wont. ive been so miserable for so long, i just want to get over all of it
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0 #77 Sammie Pasquariello 2012-04-01 18:26
I'm 22 years old. I've always prided myself on being mature and smart about my decisions. I recently found out I'm pregnant. I have more of a dilema though because there is a possibilty of two fathers. I decided I'm going to have this baby but now both of the potential fathers have backed out. I gave my two months notice in my apartment because my ex and I planned to move in together and set up for the baby. Now for whatever reason he's changed his mind and I'm left in a hysterical panic not knowing my first step. Please help! Anyone. I don't know what to do first... :(
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-1 #76 Mrs.Gifted 2012-03-22 02:18
Quoting Lydia:
Quoting Natasha Malik:
My husband of 7 years has just walked out on me 2 weeks ago leaving his 5 year old twins behind. I have 4 kids from a previous marriage and am left feeling weak and used. My husband was abusive physically and mentally and walked out as he wanted to live his life. He was swlfish but losing him still hurts. Has anyone else been through a similar thing. I feel so alone and broken.


I cannot imagine knowing what you are going through. I am so sorry to hear this. I want to say that this will only get better, but I'm not one to judge that. I can however, put you in my prayers and pray that you and your young ones are guided into a safe and secure place and that someone will watch over you all and care for you. Do take care and know that there is someone out there who wants you to do well.

"keep ya head up"
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+3 #75 Mrs.Gifted 2012-03-22 02:16
Hi,I'm a mother of 4 amazing boys.Not one day do I regret them,I admit times do get hard but I'll never loose FAITH in God.He has delivered me from many situations and my boys are a true blessing.Their father left a couple of years ago but that didn't stop me from being a strong woman and mother.I was in a hidden abusive relationship with their father for 7years with no direction other than thinking he'll change and we'll be a family.God knows I held on 2 hurt thinking it would be best for my kids if we stayed 2gather,but all along my boys was hurting.I do not receive childsupport nor is he involved in the boys life(by his choice).But see that's where God show up and show out cause HE has been with me every step of the way..So to every single mother struggling,keep faith and hold your head up and most of all stay prayed up.Know your worth and continue 2 be the best mother YOU can be. :-)
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0 #74 reanna 2012-03-21 11:25
i am a single mother i have a daughter who was born may 10 2010 i am 16 i got preganat when i was 14 and had my daughter at 14 i am in a home to help with parenting so i can learn and my daughter can be with me i was bad on drugs so they put me there because it was the only way to keep my daughter i am still wanting drugs but i dont want to lose my daughter i just need help
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