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Welcome to Single Mothers Online, official site of the National Organization of Single Mothers, Inc. Here you'll find answers to your most daunting single parent concerns. Browse through the highly acclaimed Single Mother magazine, formerly in print version for 17 years.

Founded by Andrea Engber, NOSM is dedicated to helping single moms by choice or chance face the daily challenges of life with wisdom, wit, dignity, confidence and courage since 1991.

Read Andrea Engber's nationally syndicated column, Single...with Children, which previously ran in over 60 newspapers. Whether you're a MOM (Mother Outside of Marriage) or one of the millions of DIVAS (Divorced and Separated), take comfort knowing that you are not alone.

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The Complete Single Mother

"The ultimate go-to guide for single mothers!" - Ann Douglas, author, The Mother of All Pregnancy Books

Complete Single Mother BookThe Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns by Andrea Engber and Leah Klungness, (3rd edition, (Adams). 480 pages plus illustrations.

Being a single mother isn’t easy—but with The Complete Single Mother, Third Edition, it just got easier.
Written by the founder and director of the National Organization of Single Mothers, this comprehensive guide explains what nearly thirteen million American single mothers need to know to overcome the challenges of daily life with dignity, wisdom, and courage.
Long the most popular source of encouragement and advice for single moms, this engaging, enlightening guide explores such important issues as:
-Finances -Dealing with the absent father -Custody -Dating and remarriage

With a new chapter devoted to children with special needs, as well as inspirational sidebars about famous single mothers, this updated classic is the supportive, one-stop handbook you’ll turn to again and again!

"The Complete Single Mother is the definitive guide to life for solo moms." -Ariel Gore, editor/publisher, Hip Mama

"This is the most helpful, empowering resource single moms have looked to for over a decade." -Sheila Ellison, author, The Courage to be a Single Mother and founder of SingleMomsConnect.com

"The absolute single mother 'bible'... I couldn't believe how much incredibly important information delivered with heart, hope and laughter is packed in. You must get this book!" -Patrice Karst, author, The Single Mother's Survival Guide

From earlier editions of The Complete Single Mother:

"This handbook for single mothers offers practical advice on meeting the challenges of parenting without partners. In part 1, Engber and Klungness look at the various ways women become single mothers--through divorce, widowhood, adoption, donor insemination, or pregnancy outside marriage--and the special demands of each situation. In part 2, the authors focus on how single moms can handle pregnancy and birth, maintaining a household and maintaining their self-esteem alone, and in part 3, they talk about the day-to-day difficulties of 'raising terrific kids.' They address in part 4 relations outside the family unit." - Booklist

"Provides a world of support for women who often feel alone."-American Baby magazine.

At Last, a Comprehensive and Practical Guide for the Single Parent!

"Filled with expert information and pragmatic advice, The Complete Single Mother explains what nearly eleven million single mothers need to know to overcome the challenges of daily life with dignity, wisdom, and courage. This book will answer all the questions you may have about single motherhood but were either too busy or too afraid to ask - questions concerning custody issues, managing your finances, dealing with an irresponsible ex, handling work pressures collecting child support, and more."- From the publisher

"With more than nine million American women raising children alone by choice or out of necessity, it is surprising that most books on pregnancy and parenting still assume that the two-parent family is the norm. Written by single mothers...offers useful, practical advice for women raising children alone. Includes information on medical care, financial management, legal matters, career planning, social life, support networks, and dealing with family members. Engber and Klungness, writing in the tone of self-help books, cover pregnancy and the baby's first year but place more emphasis on the mother's self-esteem and other psychosocial issues. They also include child-development and parenting information about older children as well as a bibliography and resource list. Comprehensive. Highly recommended for all parenting collections."- Library Journal

5 star rating from Barne's and Noble' readers:

"Great resource for Single Moms. I was given this book when I found out I was having a baby alone. It has great sections on everything a single mom needs to know. I have enjoyed the information and would recommend it to ALL Single Moms." -a Single Mom & Proud of it, April 25, 2000,

"The Single Mother's 'Bible'! As a single Mom of two boys, I keep this book on my nightstand and use it as a bible for situations that arise as a single Mom. It is a great reference book and I would recommend it to any single Mom who is searching for guidance. I truly appreciate the wealth of information it contains. A must have for you single Moms out there!"
-a single working Mom from NYC, September 14, 1999,

"Destined to become a parenting classic!" - Shoshana Alexander, author, In Praise of Single Parents

"Essential reading for single moms!" - Working Mother magazine

"Wow!" - American Baby


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+1 #56 Doreen 2012-01-14 11:37
Quoting Farah:
I'm 21 years old and only four weeks pregnant with my boyfriend of two months. My family is Pakistani/Muslim. My mother and my boyfriend want me to get an abortion. I simply do not and I cry about it everyday.


Hi Farah, be strong and courageous hon! When that baby comes, after a while you'll start to wonder how you lived life without him/her. No matter how your pregnancy came about, EVERY child is a blessing from God. Trust me as well when I tell you that your mom WILL come around; she will treat her grandchild better than she did you. I know it may be difficult coming from a muslim family but pray dear one and trust God & you will see things work out. It hurts, I know but be strong & courageous. Take care.
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-1 #55 edafhel 2012-01-13 03:49
I'm 25 with my baby ej who is 1 year and 7 months.I'm doing OK now...after my boyfriend left me for another girl. At first it was really hard...emotionally, I really loved him so much and thought he would really be there for me...i was wrong, I'm just nothing to him..it hurts a lot, but now I'm moving on...for my baby and myself. i know i can still be happy and content without him...we all can do it...we've got our strength, our child.
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-1 #54 Farah 2012-01-11 22:01
I'm 21 years old and only four weeks pregnant with my boyfriend of two months. My family is Pakistani/Muslim. My mother and my boyfriend want me to get an abortion. I simply do not and I cry about it everyday.
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0 #53 BBBAiley 2011-12-26 09:57
I think being a single parent is the hardest job you will ever have. I have started to write about my 20 years of being a single mom to two great kids. There are lots of ups and downs, but also lots of moments you will remember and cherish.
Stay positive...it makes all the difference
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+1 #52 Pooh Bear 2011-12-14 11:02
I am seven weeks away from my due date && I haven't heard from the father in a month in a half, I don't want him back just want him to take part of his daughter life when she is born.. Is that really to much to ask for & not only be a part but be a proud father & let the world know he has a child... He has a new gf now which she doesn't know about our child that will be here soon... Thinking about not inviting him to the birth
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-1 #51 The Rock mom 2011-12-13 07:39
Hi everyone, I am also single mom from Thailand but stay in Sweden,try to be strong my heart and life with my one kids 7 years old and one in my stomath 4 months now, try to no more cry and accept life....from Rock mom :oops:
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0 #50 Micalynn 2011-12-07 14:32
Hi everyone! I am a single parent of one and he's 13 years old. It's been a tough road doing everything on my own but I loved every minute of raising my son. He's a terrific child! Over the years I had many health issues like battling carcinoid cancer and having a blood clot in my lungs and having to be on blood thinners. While going through my rough time with health issues I decided to follow one of my dreams of becoming an author of a children's book. My book is called "My Mom Can Do Anything" and you can find on http://www.xlibris.com/MyMomCanDoAnything.html or on Amazon.com look for the seller by the name of GenuinePeeps. This book acknowledges us women and what we do for our children. We don't just do girly things and be scared to brake a nail. We also get in the dirt with our children. Like some of us women our child may not have a male figure around so we step up and do the things that you would think a males job would be. We have to be the mother as well as the father
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-1 #49 April Storm 2011-12-05 19:43
Great source of support and advice for single moms. Keep up the good work!
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-1 #48 sumulas 2011-12-03 17:26
For the first time in my life I feel the urge to have a child, a family of my own.
Perhaps i am very lonely and feel I have lots to give. The money is an issue, but not a huge concern. Not having the father image and the support of a couple is a mayor concern for me, in addition I know I will be rejected by my family again if I decide to have a baby outside a marital relation.
....Is a paradox because when I was younger I had many marriage propousals I refuse... And now I am completely by my self...
I just turn 40, may be this is a hormonal reaction. I have always cherishedd my independence and valued it. Even though I know the option of being a single mom is an option in the circle I move is highly
attacked and I don't have the strength to assume the motherhood and the social negative reaction towards me and the baby at the same time...

I will highly appreciate any comment on this matter.

Regards. Paula
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0 #47 Ms Taylor 2011-11-26 01:51
Hello,

I hope all is well. My name is Camille Taylor and I am the founder of LimitedNot, Inc. We are a single parent organization that exercises the village mentality to help single parents, men and women, between the ages of 18-40 who need assistance fulfilling their deferred dreams while also maintaining a great parenting relationship to ensure the creation of future achievers. I am reaching out to you today as I am looking to join forces with other single parent support groups all over the united states who are working towards making a positive change in the direction of our present and future generations. You can get more information about us by visiting our website at www.limitednotinc.org. I am excited to know that there are others out there who want to and are helping the single parent community. Thank you in advance for your time. I look forward to hearing from you.

Respectfully,
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